The Myth of SuperMom

We all know at least one SuperMom.  You know that mother that we all look at and wish we could be like.  The one who seems to have it all together.  While we are digging in the back of the SUV looking for our kids other shoe, looking like we barely drug ourselves out of bed, she is the mother who looks like she got up at the break of dawn, already did Insanity, and is calmly strutting into the school building with today's treat for the teacher.  The woman who we all look at and try to figure what she knows that we missed.  That mother who apologizes for her house being a mess when your house couldn't look that spotless if you scrubbed for 39 hours straight!

I'm going to let you in a secret.  One that the SuperMoms of the world don't want you to know.  SuperMom is not real.  She doesn't exist.  She is a great big, slap you upside the head FAKE! 

Feel better?  I know you do.

 

Relax! SuperMom is just the mean girl from High School in a larger body.  She is putting on a grand production for the world.  She is the one who is secretly hiding in the bathroom taking her kids ADHD meds so that she can hold it together for just one more day.  

The real question is.....why?  Why do females feel the need to put this stress on ourselves and each other?  Why do some females think that the only way to feel good about themselves is to make other females feel bad?  Women are more cruel to each other than any other creature on the face of the Earth.  If a woman chooses to stay at home with her kids, other women say she is making it difficult on her husband by not contributing financially to the household.  But, let a woman choose to put her kids in daycare and pursue a career and those very same women will say she is a bad mother because she would rather work.

The truth is.....no one can do it all.  If you want to make a change in the way the world treats women, change the way you treat the women in your life.  Women need to support one another.  If you see a fellow estrogen based life-form struggling, instead of putting her down, why not lift her up?  Offer her a kind word or a hand.  Be honest and tell her that you are struggling with the same things she is.  If we could all just admit that we aren't perfect and tell each other the truth, perhaps we could all take a load off of our shoulders.

Who made you boss?

I always loved Dear Abby and other advice columns.  Even as a kid I would read them and think, "Hey, I could do that!"  If there is one thing that can be said about me, it's that I have an opinion on everything.  I also have a firm belief that I am always right.  Am I?  Heck no, but I am one opinionated beotch.  I used to get offended when people told me this but as I have gotten older I realize that it's not my problem.  If you don't want me to give you my opinion, don't ask.  If you ask, I promise that I will tell you the truth.  Even if it hurts.

Honest to a fault.  I suppose that describes me.  Want to know what I think of your situation?
Get busy emailing me and I will let you know.  But make sure you are prepared for the answer.  Do you have to follow my advice?  Of course not, it's your life, do what you want.  Should you follow my advice?  Well, yeah, I told you I am always right.

20th Anniversay Celebration Ideas

 I decided to start the questions off myself.  My husband and I are about to celebrate our 20th anniversary in a few months.  I was thinking now that they kids are older that we might so something really special to celebrate.  I am not the type to want to be the center of attention so a party is out.  I didn't even have a wedding because I just don't like that type of junk.  Last year when we were at the beach, hubby said we should have a wedding on the beach to renew our vows.  I know he was joking because surely he knows me better than that at this point, though sometimes I wonder.

Anyway, I have been searching around on the internet for some ideas.  I thought about renting a cabin up in the mountains for a weekend.  But then I realized that would mean we would be in a cabin for a weekend alone together.  That sounds fun at first but the reality is that I do not want to be cooking and truthfully, we have been married 20 years, we're not having sex like a newly married couple for a weekend.  We would be fighting like cats and dogs with nothing to do for an entire weekend.

So, I am asking for ideas on what we could do that would be somewhat affordable and still celebrate because it IS a big deal.

What is Dear Mom?

What is this blog and why should I waste my time reading it?  Great question.  I decided to start this blog in hopes of helping other women like myself.  We all struggle with issues that we would love to talk to someone about, to just be able to ask What Would You Do in this situation.  Sometimes we are lucky enough to have a Mom or a best friend who we can ask these types of questions.  But even if we are brave enough to ask, the answers are always based on what the person already knows or thinks they know about us and the situation.

So what if there was a place where we could go to ask other moms and wives for advice without having to worry what they might think of us?  A place where the advice did not come from people who knew us and had preconceived notions about what they think is best for us?  What if there was a place you could ask anything anonymously and get honest advice from other moms?

This is that place!  Ask anything you want, no matter how embarrassing.  You know that thing that you want to ask your mom but you could never ask her such a thing?  Ask us!  You know how you wish you could get your best friends advice about whether you should do it but you could never have her think you would even consider doing that but.....?  Ask us!

This blog is simply a forum.  You email your question and I will post.  I may or may not give my answer/advice on the topic.  If I think I can be helpful, I will but if I have no clue it will be up for others to answer.   The comment section will be open for you to offer advice to others.  This blog is yours, I am simply the administrator.  Do with it as you will.